Reader Discretion Advised
TL;DR: While I do provide certain warnings to preface my work, the major disclaimer I iterate is that I don't issue tags for everything. My expectation is that you, as the reader, will use your best judgement regarding your reading experience as I repeatedly advise reader discretion.
The post below is a detailed breakdown of what that specifically entails if prior warnings significantly matter to you and/or you're not sure whether you should read my work.
Post Content [Subject to future update as needed]
What you should (almost) always expect to see in my work
I'm an erotica author, so I assume my readers know by default that I depict sexual and/or risqué situations in graphic detail. Additionally, sexual deviance is a big part of my work. The acts below (almost) always appear in my erotic scenes, and I don't necessarily warn for them since I consider them as given in "explicit sexual content".
If reading about any of these makes you uncomfortable, then my work will not be to your taste.
Making out, masturbation, penetrative unprotected sex, oral sex, friction-seeking acts (e.g. xxx-riding [thigh riding, face riding...], dry humping...), heat-of-the-moment consensual acts (e.g. groping, grazing teeth, scratching, biting...), strong language (e.g. cussing during sex or otherwise)...
Side note: I don't write about ED-related topics, so I don't warn for food. You can expect to see it mentioned in the passing as a humane activity.
Why I don't "warn" — It's not to blindside you.
In my book descriptions, you will see a disclaimer along the lines of the following:
The author chooses not to issue tags for everything that takes place in their work to preserve tension and some element of surprise. By clicking "Keep Reading", you accept to proceed at your own risk.
You might feel more comfortable seeing a wall of tags, but I, as the author, do not prefer that at all, and here's why.
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It's in the "syllabus": Major warnings are always included in the tags of a particular work, and I do not repeatedly warn for them in the chapters.
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It spoils the entire thing: I want my readers to walk into a story/chapter knowing as little as possible about what's about to happen. There is significant effort that goes into creating a story, and telling you everything that's going to take place up front reveals the entire thing in 10 seconds, which is not fair. It denies me the opportunity to have you gasp out of surprise because you will have expected to read certain things. So, no. I don't even want you to know if smut will take place if I can avoid it.
I'm a member of the generation that had no way of knowing what happens in a book other than the blurb published on the back cover. This is what made reading literature an amazing experience for me, and I'd like my readers to share a similar experience.
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I can't possibly know what's "triggering" for everyone: My personal sensitivity threshold is pretty low, but I still don't think it's realistic for an author (that I'm a reader of) to foresee everything I might have had an unpleasant experience with and/or cringe over and write accordingly, especially if they are seemingly harmless. Heck, they might've even had similar experiences and might be writing to heal from them.
As a hyperbolic example, even if they wanted to "warn" me about it, there's simply no way of them knowing about that one time I got mugged on a train. As you would agree, "mention of trains" only occurs to no one ever.
This is why I just give a heads up for things my common sense tells me to (see the third section of this post).
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Language used: I don't provide a comprehensive list of each address the characters may use for each other, especially during sex. Instead, you will see warnings such as; objectifying language, possessive language, namecalling, degradation etc.
It's a different story if a character uses heavy slur to legitimately offend somebody, in which case you will get a heads up.
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To take control of my own space: I've unfortunately experienced this many times in different contexts—once you start accommodating to people, there is no end to demands. It always starts with a small, very acceptable request, and a simple gesture turns into an entitlement fest that's beyond your control. I feel very happy with the with my current setup, and I intend to keep it that way, so I find it quite reasonable that I publish what I want, in my own terms (that I'm publicly declaring in excruciating detail), and in a format I see fit.
If you think the points made above are not acceptable by you, then my work will not be to your taste.
What I do warn for
As I've said before, my intention is not to blindside anybody, and my main concern always has to do with spoiling the story and ruining potential twists. I do not consider dreams as events that really happen to the characters, but rather as a reflection of their subconscious. Therefore, UNLESS IT'S IN A DREAM CONTEXT, I will include content warnings if the below-stated points appear in my work, including but not limited to;
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Heavy sexual deviance-related practices a.k.a "hard kinks" and/or "perversion": Risk-aware consensual kinks (e.g. CNC, breathplay, knifeplay, BDSM practices...), hard fetishes/paraphilias (e.g. flogging, pseudo-incest, watersports...).
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Substance use side effects if applicable: Heavy intoxication/blackout, overdose...
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Sensitive subject matter: Infidelity (pertains to main couples in relationships; NOT situationships, love triangles, or FWBs), incest, psychological and/or mental health issues, self-harm...
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What is commonly referred to as "dark content": Noncon/dubcon, graphic violence (e.g. physical, domestic, gang violence, heavy blood/gore etc.), traumatic events (e.g. SA, death etc.)...
This is to give a general idea and not a full account of everything I will ever warn for. If you don't see something you're sensitive about here, please use your best judgement regarding consuming my work. Once again, I do not necessarily warn for things that take place in dream contexts.
I appreciate you for respecting my choices as an author, and thank you very much for showing interest in my work.